New Blog Name, but, Not Really
I decided to change the name of this very blog to be…well, my name. This blog started as a class project last Fall and my professor wanted us to be creative with the title. Well, that wasn’t easy for me, because it took a whole freaking week to settle for “I” Adores It.
I already feel so much more comfortable. I can shorten it to ‘IA’, which is a lot easier than ‘IAI’…well you guys really don’t…
Def seeing this now.(via healthscireflib)
I appreciate my boss more and more when I see what he does for the library. He tries so hard to do the best.
Things got real, you guys.
Congratulations Julie! Xo.
but have you considered:
- strong females who don’t denounce femininity or being girly
- strong females who are “like every other girl” bc why the hell not girls are rad
- strong females who tear down the culture of girls hating on other girls
- strong females who are proud to be feminists
- strong females who support and acknowledge trans women
- strong females who understand that being strong isn’t synonymous with manly or with “acting like a man”
Summer 2014 - Fat Ass Songs That Have Gone Astray (Or Have They?)
I understood what a majority of people felt about Meghan Trainor's "About the Bass." Honestly, I like the song. It’s cute to me, especially when I add it to my workout playlists. It gets me out of my seat, I wiggle my butt, and fat girls have a specific song dedicated to them. This is a nice change. I, though tiny in height, am a fat girl. I can rock to this song, but it does come along with a bit of guilt.
I don’t have all my fat in "all the right places" but I chose to pay more attention to the line ”every inch of you is perfect, from the bottom to the top.” It’s the body-positive line I agree with.
Of course, the song has the problem of calling skinny girls “skinny bitches." I agree with most about this, one-hundred percent. Yet, Meghan is one of those plus-sized model archetypes that mainstream (Haaaa.) fashion loves - nice chest, big butt, flat stomach and tall. I am so tired of this in many ways, because short fat women are here too, but it’s a song that tries to practice self-love. I’m okay with that. I’m not “taking” what I can get only, because I see it for its faults. White girl singing a bluesy/R&B/pop song, POC dancing in the background like props. Yeah, I see it.
Now when Nicki Minaj said “Fuck them skinny bitches” on "Anaconda", I laughed so hard. Not to spite you skinnier folk. Nah. But you don’t find it ironic as hell that this mini rapper is telling you off when she’s skinny, too? Nicki has an ass but she is t-i-n-y.
When Nicki released the album cover, there were critiques and open letters against the image, because she was crouched down and showing off her ass. (See this letter here and another critic here) Nicki made it a point to mention other models showing off their skinnier buns that were deemed acceptable, yet she was “unacceptable.” (See the Sports Illustrated image in this article here.)
Jennifer Lopez is the woman from the block who brought the ass back into pop culture since the 90s. You can’t tell me she’s the original booty girl, because I’d have to point you in the direction of former pin up girls and Iris Chacon, a Puerto Rican singer & dancer from the 70s and 80s, known for having a pretty derriere. Well Jennifer has a song titled "Booty" that will have Iggy Azalea on the remix. I might have to ignore that one, but this is a rarity to have 3 big-ass songs, out at the same time, from WOMEN who are celebrating what they have. Now, I don’t care how these women got their bodies (be it from genes or shots), they’re still trying to get their fans to celebrate themselves, too.
This is where you counter the above: Having a big ass is mentioned all the time in music/videos/society you say? All the rappers and rockers love the big-bottomed girls so much they come up with songs to celebrate us? Uh no. They love whom they call “thick girls” - women who have skinny waists, yet ass and thighs for days. If you have big boobs as well, AMAZING! YOU’RE THE PERFECT SPECIMEN. Here’s what Sir-Mix-A-Lot had to say about big women:
"And Sir-Mix-a-Lot still feels the need to point out that he’s not talking about big girls — he’s referring to “Shakira or J.Lo at her peak… a 22-inch waist with 35-inch, 38-inch ass.” “I’ve seen girls that look like me and been like, ‘Ohhhhh, I’m Baby’s got Back!’” he told the Village Voice in 2011. “And I’m like, ‘No, no, no, no.’ It wasn’t ‘Baby Got Back and Center, and Middle, and Front.’ ” - (Source: Flavorwire)
Thanks, ya jerk.
So when Natalia Kills went off on Twitter about women bullying those who are less than size 6, I really wanted to shake her. For someone who has claims to being a feminist, I thought it was uproariously narrow of her to give this rant:
I just heard a sad and degrading song that I can’t quite figure out if it’s a public joke or not…— NATALIA KILLS (@NataliaKills)August 27, 2014
Why are we publicly deemed “skinny BITCHES” if we’re naturally smaller than sz 6? Horrified i’m considered a bitch for not being overweight— NATALIA KILLS (@NataliaKills)August 27, 2014
Larger framed women need to stop bullying/victimizing girls with small frames, less voluptuous figures as if they’re unattractive/anorexic— NATALIA KILLS (@NataliaKills)August 27, 2014
It’s not a ‘positive message’ that if you have small breasts (like me) and “don’t got that jelly” men won’t find you sexually appealing…— NATALIA KILLS (@NataliaKills)August 27, 2014
Negativity + negativity = guess what…?— NATALIA KILLS (@NataliaKills)August 27, 2014
Believe it or not there are guys out there that will actually wanna “hold you at night” even if you have a stick figure or less “booty” 👫— NATALIA KILLS (@NataliaKills)August 27, 2014
Small framed models are used in Ad’s so that the focus stays on the product being advertised, not the sexually appealing curves of the model— NATALIA KILLS (@NataliaKills)August 27, 2014
But the media isn’t doing it to make curvier women feel ‘too big’ or ‘unappealing’… Size 2 models aren’t there to visually victimize us…— NATALIA KILLS (@NataliaKills)August 27, 2014
There’s beauty in everything. Natural, silicone, big, small, DD’s, A-cups… You name it. Bullying “skinny bitches” is NOT beautiful #ugly— NATALIA KILLS (@NataliaKills)August 27, 2014
With these tweets, I can see where Natalia Kills believes that she’s being helpful and inspirational. I’m not sure if she went through her own phase of being bullied, because these tweets do sound like they could come from a place of hurt. But for Natalia to say that “size 2 models aren’t there to visually victimize us…" Girl. Models are there to represent what the industry thinks we should aspire to be, including their unnatural sizes. Mainstream fashion industry DOES NOT LIKE FAT WOMEN. I repeat: MAINSTREAM FASHION INDUSTRY DOES. NOT. LIKE. FAT. WOMEN.
Does Natalia have a morphed view about sizes?: “Why are we publicly deemed “skinny BITCHES” if we’re naturally smaller than sz 6? Horrified i’m considered a bitch for not being overweight.” Sooo, because of a song that appeals to curvy women, we see that there is a chance Natalia Kills believes that “curvy” means “overweight.” I’m willing to give this a benefit of a doubt, because she was obviously passionate when writing these tweets.
"Small framed models are used in Ad’s so that the focus stays on the product being advertised, not the sexually appealing curves of the model." I was never an art student nor am I savvy in these things. But, what the fuck? Advertisement uses sex to sell their products all the time. Sex sells. Small framed models are used because this is what mainstream media thinks is “acceptable.”
"Larger framed women need to stop bullying/victimizing girls with small frames, less voluptuous figures as if they’re unattractive/anorexic"…I can write a whole dissertation about how she is both wrong and right. However, she has such a narrowed sense of focus claiming that “larger framed women” are the problem, when it’s society as a whole. She, as a women in the industry, will always be more accepted than a fat girl.
Well, I’m going to actually close this down because my short commentary on two songs just turned in to this massive thing that I am shocked that I wrote. This is just one fat girl’s opinion on everything. I can be wrong and judgmental but you know what I want?
I want every women to band together and realize that they are sexy, beautiful and gorgeous, NO MATTER WHAT SIZE. We really can change the world if we thought better of ourselves. Body positive ideals for all!